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It shouldn't take a skillet up side your head to make her message clear. Learn to pick up on the subtle (and not so subtle) clues that she's flirting with you because she's attracted to you.
Dating and flirting today is not really any more complicated than in years past. It's still a matter of boy meets girl, girl gives attraction clues, attraction clues go soaring right over boy's head. There is hope though, even for the most clueless among you men. It is possible to work through the mystery of dating body language, attraction signals, and direct innuendo to find the message hidden within: “she's interested,” ask her out or “she's attracted to you,” ask her out again.
Really, it is exactly that simple. To make it a little clearer for those of you who may be great at hitting the fast ball but can't seem to manage to hit the broad side of the relationship barn, here are a few ways you can tell she's flirting with you, attracted to you, and actually sending you all kinds of clues.
Have You Noticed Deliberate and Direct Eye Contact?
Whether across a crowded room or standing face to face, if she is making direct eye contact and you are fairly certain it isn't accidental then it's a safe bet she's interested in you, in fact she might even be attracted to you and flirting to let yoiu know. To be fair, give it a time or two. If you catch her looking once or twice it may be accidental or even mild curiosity. If your eyes meet more than a couple of times within the course of an evening or afternoon however, the girl is interested in you. It's a good idea to at least initiate conversation to see where this brief attraction takes you.
Is She All Smiles?
When a girl smiles at you or spends a great deal of the time that you two are together smiling, this is another sure sign that she's trying to get your attention. Of course anything that brings attention to her mouth is considered to be an attraction signal so pay attention to her actions and see how often she tries to get your attention focused on her lips.
Does She Make Excuses to be Near You?
Is she walking by the punch bowl an awful lot with a full glass in her hands? It needn't be this obvious but if she has no obvious reason for coming around a good bit and yet seems to be coming around, this is yet another attraction sign that she may be flirting, ever so subtly, with you.
Has She Initiated Conversation?
Showing an interest in you is a great start for her on the flirtation meter. You will have a home run of dating interest if she begins asking about hobbies, doing things, or going places. This is as close as many girls will get to asking you out without asking you out. She's putting the ball in your court but giving you a wide open field of options in discussing the things you both enjoy doing.
What is She Doing With Her Hands?
If she is touching your arms, shoulders, or hand or leaning towards you when you speak to her she is all but beating some sense into you flirting and showing how attracted she is to you. Yes! Guys, she's flirting with you when she playfully slaps your shoulders, tries to hold your hand, or simply makes an effort to be physically near you.
The same thing goes for pushing you away and then laughing. Her dating body language is playful and she wants you to take her out on a date to go play with you.
Tune in on what she is doing with her body. Any contact with you is a good sign as long as it continues. If you are walking does she bump into you ever so delicately? Or try to lean on you for support? These are all good signs that she is digging you. Don't be shy, ask her out. If she says yes great. If she says no, she may just be flirting with you. So look her in the eye, tell her that you know from the way she has been acting that she would really love to go out with you, and of course you seriously never refuse any reasonable request from a lady as attractive as her.
If She’s Flipping Her Hair, is She Flipping For You?
A woman’s hair is her crown. Is she flipping her hair with her hands or head? She may be doing this to draw your attention. If you are interested in her, try a simple compliment like “nice hairstyle, is it new?” Girls love compliments. The same goes for primping her cloths. Is she smoothing her dress or blouse while looking in your direction? If you are interested in her, try a simple compliment like “nice dress, is it new?” A simple ice breaker compliment goes a long way so don’t overdo it. If her feet are pointing toward you, you could be on track to land a first date. Sometimes her attraction clues and body language are powered by her subconscious. Other flirting attraction signals are delivered very much on purpose.
Leaning in; Moving Closer Hints at Attraction
If you've seen guys that seem to have women hanging on their every word and literally hanging all over them, you've seen men that know how to attract, and hold the attraction of women. If you are interested in dating a particular woman, pay attention to how she reacts to you. Does she lean in when you talk to her? Does she close the distance between you? These are sure signs of attraction from most women though there could be times when it's an act of survival and seeking the warmth of your body heat so you need to consider all extenuating factors involved in her dating body language. Dating body language is best considered in patterns. If she does several of the flirting and attraction clues or signs mentioned in this article, then yes she is definitely attracted to you.
Leaning Back; Creating Distances Hints at Repulsion
While repulsion might seem a little extreme, it is an accurate statement. Women who lean away are trying to get away in general. Most of the time this is on a completely subconscious level and something she isn't even aware she's doing. The same can be said of women who are literally moving away. This doesn't mean that she isn't interested or won't ever be interested in you, but that what you're discussing or something in the way you are carrying yourself at that precise moment is giving her pause. The best advice in this situation is to tone things down, change the subject, and pull back a little bit yourself. Allow her to begin flirting or close the distance between you when she feels comfortable doing so.
Direct Eye Contact: A Sure Sign of Interest
The eyes are the window to the soul and a woman that wants to gaze into yours is interested in learning more about you. Give her a glimpse and see if she comes back for more. You might find yourself pleasantly surprised. You also might be able to imagine seeing yourself through her eyes for a while. The bottom line is that women don't generally waste time seeking eye contact if they aren't interested, attracted and flirting with you.
Blushing Indicates Probable Palpitations
If you make her blush whenever she comes near then she's definitely ready to make your acquaintance, or get to know you better if you've already met or are out on a date. Blushing in general is a nervous reaction that is completely uncontrollable for most women. This means that it is an unbiased indicator of attraction and a natural response that many, not all, women experience when physically attracted to someone else. In many ways blushing can be considered a definite attraction signal that goes beyond basic flirting. If you make her blush, she is yours.
Now that you have a few basics down you should be able to venture forth into the world and realized that you have been missing many great opportunities. Don't let them slip through your fingers again. Instead, pay attention to the subtle flirting girls do when they are interested in you.
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